Divorced Dad's

This post is especially meant for those Dad's out there who are divorced and have children.

(By the way i was divorced 7 yrs ago and my daughter is now 7yrs old)

The first thing i want to say to you is no matter what the circumstances were for your divorce MAKE TIME FOR YOUR KIDS - secondly im going to be straight forward on this and say to all the divorced and single dads out there remember you have a responsibility - A BIG ONE.

I have seen that these days it tends to be the norm that when a couple divorces most men not all - please i do not say all men - many men tend to forget there responsibilities towards the Kids and just walk away.

The first and most common thing they neglect is always the maintenance/financial part, the second thing they forget as well which i believe is one of the most important is to spend quality time with them, YES, TIME - everyone has spare time so dont use an excuse "im too busy" your child will remember you were too busy and it will catch up to you one day - ask yourself this:

IS YOUR FATHER IN HEAVEN TOO BUSY FOR YOU ?

THE ANSWER IS DEFINITELY NO - HE IS NEVER TOO BUSY FOR YOU - HE IS ALWAYS THERE FOR YOU - SO NOW YOU DO THE SAME AND BE THERE FOR YOUR CHILDREN.

Do not take out your frustrations of an ex spouse or a divorce out on your kids and do not make promises to your children that you cant keep - an example of this is - "you tell your child on the phone ill be seeing you on saturday and then when saturday comes you don't pitch up". That breaks little hearts into splinters.

I am sure you happily made those kids - so now you must happily accept the responsibility that comes with it.

One of Max Lucado books - i cant remember which one but he wrote that one of the ways children feel loved is not by gifts - just give them your TIME.

I do know that sweets and chocolates and dvd's and playstations surely grab there attention but nothing works as good as simply giving part of your time to them - ALL THEY WANT IS YOUR TIME.

So to all the divorced dad's out there - make the time available for your children - IT'S TIME YOU WILL NEVER FORGET.